I just read an article in the papers about divorce rates increasing in older couples who have 40 + years worth of marriage reason being their children were already grown up and there was just no need to put up with each other anymore
WHY.
WHY
WHY
WHY
I understand that the article believes that it is because of our developing world, it is because women have more financial power and are no longer dependent on men. But is that what marriage is about? Looking from my naive 17 year old eyes, is it too idealistic to believe in a marriage like the one in the notebook? Of never ending love that stems from two human souls? I was deeply saddened after reading the article. We live in a highly crippled society. I shall not discuss the economic consequences of such an unhealthy trend (not because i am sick of studying economics but because i feel that that isn't the most worrying thing about this issue) Where the constitution we call marriage has become a broken principle. This broken principle has been named, condoned and practiced as a normality. This broken principle is what we call "divorce". I could go on forever about why divorce has become a predominant characteristic in our current society, but really what is the point? Divorce is wrong. It should not be an option. Not because of your children, your religion, your parents. But just because it goes against the marriage vows you took. Then again it brings the problem of extramarital affairs, abuse and other reasons that make divorce such a viable (almost compulsory) option. So how now? Is marriage an impossible concept for the people of the present? In this day and age where you can pick your spouse, people can still "fall out of love" after a mere 5-7 years of marriage. This worries me so much. This innate fear that i am not ready for marriage. That even when you think you are ready, the reality of marriage kills love. I am faced with two realities : the first being, the increasing rates of divorce and the second being, my parents who have been happily married for 20 years. I don't know how to feel per say. But I want to know what the importance of marriage is. Why get married? Why get married in our current world? Can love and marriage coexists? If it takes so much effort and couples just end up getting divorced why do it? I feel like a teenager penning down my frustrations about the world and it's imperfections. Which is funny. Because I am, I am doing just that.
(Anyway, Eugene, if you are reading this : yes i still want to get married to you and live on mars in a castle in the late future when/if our planet dies. Yes, the proposal I sprung on you on the 29th due to the ridiculous rumor that when a women proposes to a man on the 29th he cannot refuse still holds true. Even though you rejected me.............. So fear not! I am not indirectly breaking up with you through my blog. Which would be funny in a very hypothetical sense)
P.S. I have left so many valid logical key arguments out that every time i re-read my post i feel like adding in 10 million more ideas and contradictions to what i said. Is that just queer or what.
